Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Humble Beginnings

    Some people may not realize it, but we as humans gravitate towards kinky sex. Some find it easier to embrace their more perverted side, others do to a variety of influences may find it a little bit harder. I had a unique upbringing. My mother was a dyed in the wool conservative, my father was a much more open minded individual.  From one side all I heard about was how sex was supposed to be a ritual of love between a man and a woman, and from the other side I was given a small porno collection at the age of 16, and allowed to see what some possibilities were.
     Yes thats the first video I ever saw.
     While I don't remember too much about the movie, one lesson that I did not quite understand at the time became more apparent later in life. Sex can be  for FUN at the same time as being a bondoing experience. And thats what brings us to our topic today, adding a little bit of fun, kink, into your bedroom activities. Spanking, biting and hair pulling. Simple, free, and well known, these activities can take good sex, add a layer, and make it really good sex. The best thing about these is that there really is not to much you have to go into before you do them. You can try things out as you go along, but be gentle
     These things are best introduced during a very passionate sexual encounter. Test the waters, and observe your partners response, and go from there. 
     We will start with spanking. The problem with spanking is it gets better the more you do it, and the first couple can sting quite badly. Let your partner spank you back. Have a good session, laugh your heads off, the eroticism will come later. Don't try to do this every time though, unless your lover lets you know that its what they want. It may come about that they really enjoy it, and who knows where you can go from there.

     Now on to biting The success of your nibbles relies heavily on pressure, timing and frequency. Keep it light, only do it while in the absolute peaks of passion, and don’t do it often. If you want you have to let them know how you like it. its not the best idea to bite the breasts or vagina unless expressly asked to. Leaving marks is not desirable to everyone, but you may be surprised.
      If you want to pull your partners hair hair, do it gently. if they want it harder they will let you know. If you want them to pull yours, then just asking will usually results. There are tons of pressure points in the scalp that makes hair pulling quite an erotic activity when done properly. Do not yank, and be conscious that your lovers head and neck are attached to that hand full of hair. Hold the hair close to the scalp and in handfuls as opposed to pulling on a ponytail or the ends of longer hair. Pulling on small amounts can hurt, and not in a good way.......
     Now try incorporating more than one of these ideas into one of your sessions. You and your lover may be pleasantly surprised by how much fun you have. 

Sunday, April 10, 2011

All Tied Up Pt. 2

   As I said before this is not a post dedicated to everyone. This is for the more advanced in the bondage foray, and those willing to suffer a bit for their art, for lack of better words. Today we talk a little bit more about rope bondage. Previously, I gave a small tutorial about the Kikkou-Shibari style of rope tying. While simple and seductive in looks, it is more of an aesthetic tie than a real bondage tie. Today, the ties i will talk about, are dedicated to keeping your lover, shall we say, a little ocupied.
   Rope bondage is one of the simplest and cheapest manners of exploring the BDSM world. Requiring not much more than $20.00 of investment, it allows for some of the lightest and if you want some of the roughest bondage play you can imagine. but as such it can be dangerous you need to take precaution for advanced play, safety is and will always be the key. Now if you have never tried any type of bondage play out, I suggest you do a little research before doing so. And although you will get some interesting results looking for bondage on Google, taking the time to sift through can yield a plethora of information.
     Now for the fun stuff.
      We will begin with the Ushiro Takate Kote. This tie is meant to hold the arms behind the back, immobile. As I said in my last update, I am the one doing this tie, hate to say this though, no nudity, one google wont allow it, and two, my love is my love, though she was kind enough to share this moment with all of you. Sending her a thanks in the comments, I'm sure would make her day.
I used a 50 foot rope for this. first thing you will want to make a loop at the middle like so, this is often called the "larks head" in traditional Japanese texts.

Neat you will want to place your partners hands behind them, having you rope, with loop up, behind the arms, you will want to have plenty of slack .

You will want to wrap the wrists 3-4 times, being careful not to cut off circulation. I added a little more slack to the loop after I took this picture, because you are going to wrap the loop around your other wrapping.

 Like so.
Next you will warp the rope around  your partner, over the breast (on women, upper chest on males)

Then loop it under the other rope, and wrap in reverse.

You are going to wrap underneath the center rope and reverse again. afterwards, you will pass the rope through the original loop

Now for a little flair, i took the rope from the loop, over the shoulder, and under the opposing arm to make a cross between the breasts. pass rope through the loop, and reverse to make a rather nice looking X.

At this point you can have some fun......

If you want to keep your partner standing while you tease them, a ceiling hook can provide just what you need.

Thank you for coming by. I hope you enjoyed the information, until next time.........

Saturday, April 9, 2011


The next article is still in the works, bonus the tie I am going to show I am actually doing, and taking the pictures myself, hope you enjoy the completed article when  get it finished. Thank you again and happy experimenting.

Friday, April 8, 2011

To Let You Know

     The next story on rope ties is in the works. It will feature more advanced work, not for the faint. It will be more BDSM styled work, so it wont be for all. This will take me about one more day to put together the best information that I can , but I think it will be worth it. Until then love your  partner like no other before them.  

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Rub You The Right Way

     Hello sorry for the absence, but I am going to tell you a little bit about myself today.  You will notice periodically that I have gaps of time between when I write, this is due to the fact that I was injured some time ago fairly bad. Though I am moderately young, I spend a lot of time in absolute agony. There are points when even typing is a difficulty. So I am sorry for the break, but lets get back to fun, shall we?
     Today I want to talk to you about massage. Why not exactly the most perverse thing ever, the intimacy  factor is through the roof.  Sensual massage is a simple way to ignite a spark for a night of great passion, whether you have been together for decades, or if you are trying to take the time to impress a new lover. While many are aware of this, fear of rejection, or not knowing how to initiate, can lead to a little hesitation. Also your lovers mood and receptiveness need to be taken into consideration.
     Now, lets get started. There are a few things you will need, besides your hands, to make this a night to remember. First you will need a good massage oil or lotion, that is also safe for internal use, you need a couple of towels, a blindfold (if you enjoy that kind of thing), and some baby wipes (post experience cleanup trust me here).
       Your hands need to be clean, nails trimmed, and your hands should be warm. I find it best also, to have your lotion / oil sitting in a bowl of warm / hot water, to warm them up also. Do Not have them hot enough to burn yourself or your partner.  You should apply a generous amount of your oil / lotion to your hands, rub them together, and start to get to work. Remember to use a somewhat light touch, you are working on relaxing and arousing your partner, not beating them up.
        You will want to give your lover a full body massage. I don't mean using the entire day to rub every square inch of them, but incorporate everything you can into it, use your torso on their back. Rub your cheeks against theirs, kiss their body, licking, warm breath against their skin, are often welcomed with an
intimate response.
         A little side note, we as men tend to focus a lot of attention to the obvious areas of a womans body, but take note, a woman can be aroused areas like the wrists, fingers, ears, the back of her neck, and the insides of her elbows and knees. Feel free to rub, kiss, lick, and even nibble on these areas, you may find your session  that much more interesting for trying it.

     Start out by lightly stroking your partner's body with the tips of your fingers, starting on your partner's back. Move from one area of the body to another covering shoulders, arms, thighs, calves and buttocks.
     After your partner is completely relaxed, begin the sensual massage by making long, gliding strokes over their body. When you've completely covered them, switch from long gliding strokes to short deep strokes (for the deep strokes you need to lightly use your body weight rather than your arm strength, but be gentle). As you work your way around, also massage their feet and hands, brush over their buttocks and if you’re massaging a female partner, make sure you gently stroke her breasts.
     When you think the time is right, begin working your way very slowly down your partner's legs gliding your hands as you go. Tease your partner by stroking their inner thigh.
When the sensual energy has had time to build, continue the massage with more strokes to the front of the body. Then, lets just say use your imagination.

As I always say, talk to your partner about what they are enjoying, the more you learn about each other, the closer you can become.


Thursday, March 31, 2011

All Tied Up Pt. 1

    In the past we have gone into some of the basic ideas of bondage, talked a little bit about teasing and things of that nature, today I plan to talk a little bit among the how to side, specifically a bit about rope bondage. Many who have taken the time to look up some ideas, may have questions about how to make some of the beautiful ties they have seen, among other questions. I hope to address some of those today.
     One of the first things to note , I always, and I mean ALWAYS, note Safety First.  Have planned safe words, that are easy to remember, and alway be wary of your partners needs.  Second, decide who is going to be the dominant and who is going to be the submissive partner during this adventure, being as only one of you is going to have your hands free.
     After you have made these choices, there are a few more things to consider. What type of rope? I recommend a softer nylon, cotton, or polyester style of rope, especially for the beginner, being as they are more comfortable on the skin, the more advanced may want a rougher style. (Many different types are available at your local hardware store.)
     You also have to decide if you are going for a more artistic type of tying, or are you going for a simple restraint.  I personally am a fan of artistic knots, because they can have a certain romantic quality to them.
Remember though, The more artistic you plan on getting with a rope, the longer the rope will have to be, and the longer it will take. Plan according.
     Now for the fun stuff. This is an image I found describing the basic Japanese Kikkou-Shibari style of rope tying, there is a bit of a step change at step 7 to make it an actual restraint tie, but it will give you an idea. It is pictured on a female character, but it is just as adaptable to the male figure if you so choose.

I recommend roughly a 40-50 foot length of rope, being as it will give you a chance to fit to the individual being tied, as well as leave you some extra to restrain the hands and feet if so desired.  As far asusing this tie to restrain the hands at step 7, place your partners wrists behind their back, and use the excess rope to wrap the wrists, and make your tie behind the back. at this point, carefully lay them down, and use your imagination to pleasure, tickle or torment (depending on you and your partners tastes) and enjoy the evening.
I thank you all for your patience, and will be continuing the story.
I wish i could give credit to the artist who did this tie, and whomever took the photo
it is a beautiful example, but i can not take credit for it.

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Something I Wanted To Do

              Today I want to take the time to thank every one of my followers, as well as all those who took the time to comment.  This has shown an openness in the world to at least look at a view that may not be your own and try something new.  I am working on the post that i promised in the last one, but I wanted  to incorporate some real how to's and i want it to be as good as possible.  Please bear with me, I will have it up within the next couple of days and if anyone has any suggestions of content they would like me to discuss, feel free to comment, or email me RIGHT HERE and i will at least respond to you, even if i do not select your topic as the next blog.
             See you all soon and remember use your imagination, and you will find the best sex of your life.

Monday, March 28, 2011

The Pain Game

     This one is not for everyone.  But to day we talk about pain & pleasure combined.  DISCLAIMER: It is not ok to beat your partner, or to cause unwanted pain, what I am talking about is consensual between partners, and SAFETY is key. Take the time to research and talk things out before beginning anything listed here.
     There is a segment of us, and I use us in the global sense, that like to push the envelope on what brings pleasure. For some, a little bit of hurt, can bring about the ultimate in pleasure. While baffling to some, there is are amazing sensations to be felt when pleasure and pain are combined.  From a small bite in the middle of sex, to a pinch on certain sensitive areas on the body during foreplay, spankings for some, to whips and leather for others,  there are more options than one can humanly list in a reasonable amount of time.
     The reason behind this is simple, pain can bring about a huge endorphin rush, this combined with sexual stimulation, can cause a rush almost as intoxicating as using drugs.
     There are things you learn about yourself. You learn what you can withstand. You learn how to handle both the pleasure and pain at the same time. One of my favorites, you learn how to withstand more, and this can actually make you a stronger person.
     A few things to consider, before you start any kind of play like this you need a safety word. What this is is the thing you say when you want your partner to stop.  "More" and "Harder" are not good words to use . (ha ha). Secondly once you decide that you want to try things like these out, start small. a harder than usual pinch or bite of a nipple during foreplay, a little bit of a smack on the rear while stimulating your partner, and progressing as you decide if you and your partner like the feelings and want more.
     Explore what you can find to incorporate, a little candle wax slowly dripped on to each other (this can be dangerous you have to be careful remember trying not to severely burn your partner) can be exciting.
. Research, talk with your partner, experiment together. You will become closer.

next we explore rope bondage with some how to info.

Saturday, March 26, 2011

The Buzz Around Town

    Today thoughts are kind of funny,  more of a simple idea I had.  Truth be told, something simple, fun, but mot definitely not for everyone. More for the exhibitionist types. But we will get to that in a few.
    The topic today is a subject that some don,t like for one reason or another,  as a matter of fact, in my younger days, one while i was happy to watch in film,  was I actually afraid to bring into my personal life. Get your cheap laughs at me out now, I will wait...............Of course as the title not so subtly suggests, is about vibrators..
    Call them what you want, my personal favorite names being "marital aids", can be very intimidating to some. I really believe there is some small part of the male psyche (is I misspelled it for the context oh well) that can cause a small amount of angst at the thought of bringing something like this into your lovemaking experience. There may also be many women out there who think ill of bedroom toys, because they can be viewed as something dirty.
    Many enjoy them, many enjoy them as a couple. Some don't want their partner to know they use one, and some want nothing more than to use them on their partner.
    This is one unique opportunity, to experience something unique with your love. Now the same as everything you need to share with your partner, and not fear using toys in the bedroom, together this can be exhilarating.  Though a few tips for first timers, don't try going for the diesel powered thunder rods. and something as simple as a hand held shower head, can provide you and your lover with your first opportunity to play together. Explore sites that cater to couples of all types (I suggest  sites like Slumber parties by Jenni because of the nice selection for beginners and advanced play)
Look at this as chance to enhance some of the pleasure you feel together.

     Now as far as the funny idea, by no means am I claiming to be the creator of this idea, but for some of the kinkier folks out there, if you don't already have a set of remote control vibrating panties, get a pair (or two depending ton the type of couple you are *wink) give the remote to your lover and go out on a date. set them off at the most, interesting times. But remember safety first, no orgasms behind the wheel, that could make for a very bad evening.

The Good Touch

     Today we talk a bit about something we all know a little well, at least we should.  An amazing sexual experience doesn't always come about from actual intercourse. Sometimes, a little hand play is all you need.
Think about it. Back in high school, your best friend was you, or your hand, to be specific. It was likely one of your first experiences (yes i understand that differs for some in good and bad ways). You spent effort to use those hands on your boyfriend or girlfriend, trying to get them excited. At some point, usually when we are actually having regular sex, we tend to forget about what we can do with our hands, after a few minutes.  
     This should not be the case.  But at the same time i will note, not everyone has taken the time to learn how to get their partner off with just their hands. Others work jobs where their hands are like splintered wood, and your partner may be taken aback by this. So how do we get around this? Guys and gals, LETS NOT FORGET OUR FRIEND THE LOTION BOTTLE!!!!!!! 
      All joking aside, take care of your hands, because their is so so so much you can do for each other with them. If you find how your partner touches you to be frustrating, guide them with your own hands, talk to them telling them how you like to be touched, caressed rubbed or flat out pulled while talking to them to let them know why it feels good to you. But don't worry if you feel silly doing it, laugh some, its about having fun together! Also don't be afraid to let your significant other watch you, you might find they enjoy watching, and may have trouble keeping their hands of themselves and you.
      Take the time to explore each other and yourself,and if it tickles, then you are doing it right.

Friday, March 25, 2011

Sorry Everyone

Today I happen to be sick as one can humanly be, I will be being lazy today. New article tomorrow. thanks for coming by.  Remember share with your love. By all means. (unless you are sick thats just cruel lol)

Thursday, March 24, 2011

The Bonds of Love

      Bondage. Interesting subject. Google image searches result in some fun, some frightening and some rather interesting results. So does the adult movie market. But what is bondage, and where does it fit into a healthy relationship? Simple answer is, trust. This one act alone, can be one of the most bond (pun totally intending) building points of a unique sexual relationship. For the bound, it requires total faith in your partner, and for the binder, it requires you provide for your partners needs, in all manners.
     That is one reason why, it can be fun to switch roles in this type of play.  If you are the mostly dominate one, try taking the role where your love has total control of you, it can lead to some insight as to how they want you to handle them. They may caress you in a way that you had not thought of, that at a later point you can try with them.
     A little pinch here a little tickle there, and you can drive each other CRAZY, in a completely wonderful way.
       Now as far as getting started with this in your relationship, it can be as simple as tying your lovers hands up with a t-shirt, and seeing how well that is liked.  The next day, reverse the role. After you find out how much fun you can have together, start to think about what else you can incorporate into your game. Let your imagination run wild, I'm sure you will find yourself closer to each other than the day before.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

To What Extreme........

     It is amazing how much fun one S&M documentary can make the evening.  "Fetishes" is a documentary about Pandora's Box, for lack of better words, a S&M club catering to submissive individuals.  It was interesting, and a little fun, getting to take a look inside others private world. I must admit though, I got a chuckle or two at a couple of the folks. There were many things to learn from watching though. If not the most important thing , you have to be yourself, or you will be miserable for your entire life. You have to be open with your partner, about what you like , and you also have to be open to what your partner likes.  Together, you have to take the time to experiment with little things, and finding out what is fun for you together. Besides, a little pinch here, a little bite there, never hurt anyone, Unless you want it to.

Next we will be talking about bondage a little bit.
Until next time.


Monday, March 21, 2011

A Small Experiment

     I have spent a lot of time thinking about what to write for a first post. I tried coming up with something witty, something sexy, something seductive.  At the same time, I wanted the first post to be about us. I decided after much thought to just tell you about my self. 
     Its a little weird to analyze ones self. Trying to think about what you like, what you don't like. To simply word it, I am a pervert. big surprise I know, but how do you define yourself, when your main fetish, is almost EVERY fetish. So I guess thats what brings us here. How does one balance a life where one enjoys some rather, shall we say interesting bedroom play, but has had the wonderful luck of finding someone that shares in that willingness to explore, and that of a modern family.
      I hope in time to share some of our experiences, and maybe open some eyes to a few new things to try out. Because in my eyes, some of the most extreme sexual experiences, along with being rather enjoyable, can help you discover a stronger bond with you and your partner.
Much more to come.