Think about it. Back in high school, your best friend was you, or your hand, to be specific. It was likely one of your first experiences (yes i understand that differs for some in good and bad ways). You spent effort to use those hands on your boyfriend or girlfriend, trying to get them excited. At some point, usually when we are actually having regular sex, we tend to forget about what we can do with our hands, after a few minutes.
This should not be the case. But at the same time i will note, not everyone has taken the time to learn how to get their partner off with just their hands. Others work jobs where their hands are like splintered wood, and your partner may be taken aback by this. So how do we get around this? Guys and gals, LETS NOT FORGET OUR FRIEND THE LOTION BOTTLE!!!!!!!
All joking aside, take care of your hands, because their is so so so much you can do for each other with them. If you find how your partner touches you to be frustrating, guide them with your own hands, talk to them telling them how you like to be touched, caressed rubbed or flat out pulled while talking to them to let them know why it feels good to you. But don't worry if you feel silly doing it, laugh some, its about having fun together! Also don't be afraid to let your significant other watch you, you might find they enjoy watching, and may have trouble keeping their hands of themselves and you.
Take the time to explore each other and yourself,and if it tickles, then you are doing it right.