Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Humble Beginnings

    Some people may not realize it, but we as humans gravitate towards kinky sex. Some find it easier to embrace their more perverted side, others do to a variety of influences may find it a little bit harder. I had a unique upbringing. My mother was a dyed in the wool conservative, my father was a much more open minded individual.  From one side all I heard about was how sex was supposed to be a ritual of love between a man and a woman, and from the other side I was given a small porno collection at the age of 16, and allowed to see what some possibilities were.
     Yes thats the first video I ever saw.
     While I don't remember too much about the movie, one lesson that I did not quite understand at the time became more apparent later in life. Sex can be  for FUN at the same time as being a bondoing experience. And thats what brings us to our topic today, adding a little bit of fun, kink, into your bedroom activities. Spanking, biting and hair pulling. Simple, free, and well known, these activities can take good sex, add a layer, and make it really good sex. The best thing about these is that there really is not to much you have to go into before you do them. You can try things out as you go along, but be gentle
     These things are best introduced during a very passionate sexual encounter. Test the waters, and observe your partners response, and go from there. 
     We will start with spanking. The problem with spanking is it gets better the more you do it, and the first couple can sting quite badly. Let your partner spank you back. Have a good session, laugh your heads off, the eroticism will come later. Don't try to do this every time though, unless your lover lets you know that its what they want. It may come about that they really enjoy it, and who knows where you can go from there.

     Now on to biting The success of your nibbles relies heavily on pressure, timing and frequency. Keep it light, only do it while in the absolute peaks of passion, and don’t do it often. If you want you have to let them know how you like it. its not the best idea to bite the breasts or vagina unless expressly asked to. Leaving marks is not desirable to everyone, but you may be surprised.
      If you want to pull your partners hair hair, do it gently. if they want it harder they will let you know. If you want them to pull yours, then just asking will usually results. There are tons of pressure points in the scalp that makes hair pulling quite an erotic activity when done properly. Do not yank, and be conscious that your lovers head and neck are attached to that hand full of hair. Hold the hair close to the scalp and in handfuls as opposed to pulling on a ponytail or the ends of longer hair. Pulling on small amounts can hurt, and not in a good way.......
     Now try incorporating more than one of these ideas into one of your sessions. You and your lover may be pleasantly surprised by how much fun you have. 

1 comment:

  1. I always try to incorporate these kind of things and it usualy ends well